Couples & Relationship Counseling in Asheville, NC & Across North Carolina
Maybe you’ve been circling the same arguments for years. Maybe you feel more like roommates than partners. Or maybe even the smallest things set off big reactions.
Couples counseling (also called marriage counseling or relationship counseling) offers a safe, supportive space to slow down, understand what’s really happening between you, and rebuild trust and closeness.
I work with couples in Asheville, NC, throughout Western North Carolina and across the state —whether you’re navigating stress, life transitions, past hurts, parenting challenges, or differences in personality or neurotype.
For some couples, ADHD or other forms of neurodivergence play a role. As an ADHD-informed couples therapist in Asheville, NC, I help partners understand executive function differences, rejection sensitivity, and emotional reactivity.
For others, the struggle is rooted in long-standing attachment patterns or the quiet grief of feeling unseen. Either way, therapy gives you tools and perspective to create a relationship that feels safe, respectful, and connected again.
Marriage Counseling & Relationship Therapy for Lasting Connection
Why Asheville Couples Choose Vervain Wellness
I specialize in helping Asheville couples navigate the unique challenges of relationships in Western North Carolina—whether that's the isolation that can come with mountain living, the stress of rebuilding after community trauma like Hurricane Helene, or the complexities of balancing creative careers with partnership.
Many couples I work with are:
• Mixed-neurotype partners where ADHD or autism affects communication
• Creative professionals managing intense work demands alongside relationship needs
• LGBTQ+ and non-traditional couples seeking truly affirming, neurodivergent-informed care
• Remote workers navigating 24/7 togetherness in small spaces
• Couples managing post-Helene stress, displacement, or financial strain
Whether you're in downtown Asheville, West Asheville, Black Mountain, Weaverville, Hendersonville, or anywhere in North Carolina, I offer both in-person and telehealth sessions designed for your unique needs.
It’s not just about communicating better. Successful couples therapy focuses on:
Creating emotional and nervous system safety
Repairing old wounds and attachment injuries
Learning practical skills that actually stick
When ADHD or neurodivergence is part of the picture, we may address:
Executive function differences and uneven follow-through
Rejection sensitivity and emotional reactivity
Dopamine-driven patterns that affect focus, connection, and motivation
When attachment issues are central, we may focus on:
Identifying repeating conflict cycles that keep you stuck
Rebuilding trust and emotional safety
Strengthening intimacy and partnership
Many therapists are not trained to work at the intersection of neurodivergence and attachment. My background in both areas allows me to support couples more fully, no matter the root of the disconnection.
Why a Specialized Approach to Couples Therapy Matters
Common Reasons Couples Seek Counseling
Couples and married partners often begin therapy when they are experiencing:
Ongoing communication breakdowns and frequent misunderstandings
Feeling lonely, disconnected, or like “roommates”
Difficulty navigating ADHD or mixed-neurotype relationships and dynamics
Loss of intimacy after burnout, parenting, or long periods of distance
Struggles with sharing responsibilities (home, parenting, finances)
Emotional reactivity, shutdown, or patterns of criticism and defensiveness
A desire to build safety, teamwork, and mutual respect
Whether you call it marriage counseling, couples counseling, or relationship therapy, the goal is the same: helping you reconnect in ways that feel authentic and lasting.
My Approach to Couples Therapy
Couples therapy works best when it’s both practical and deeply relational. My role is to help you:
Name the patterns you keep falling into
Slow them down so you can see what’s driving them
Practice new ways of relating—without falling back into old habits
I blend:
ADHD psychoeducation + realistic strategies for change
Attachment theory + nervous system awareness
ACT for values-based growth
Gottman Method tools for everyday communication
Emotionally Focused Therapy to rebuild trust and closeness
The Developmental Model for understanding relationship stages
RLT (Relational Life Therapy) for boundaries, repair, and balance
When helpful, I may also meet briefly with one partner to support follow-through, emotional regulation, or executive functioning.
Why We Start with a Relationship Assessment
We skip the guesswork and start with a clear roadmap. Before we begin ongoing sessions, we use a structured assessment to identify your strengths, challenges, and relationship patterns.
You’ll be guided to the best-fit tool:
Gottman Relationship Checkup – ideal for long-term partners or couples facing frequent conflict
Prepare/Enrich – ideal for newer couples, blended families, or major transitions like moving in or parenting
My Training and Clinical Lens
I’ve completed advanced training in:
ADHD and neurodivergent relationships
Attachment-based therapy
Gottman Method
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
The Developmental Model
Relational Life Therapy (RLT)
This means I can adapt counseling to fit your specific needs—whether you’re navigating ADHD, attachment injuries, or long-standing conflict cycles.
Ready to Reconnect?
Whether you’re looking for marriage counseling in Asheville, relationship counseling in Asheville, or online couples therapy anywhere in North Carolina, the right support can help you and your partner feel seen, understood, and back on the same team.
Book your free 15-minute consultation and take the first step toward a healthier, more connected relationship.
FAQ: Couples Therapy for Attachment & Neurodivergent Relationships
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Yes. I offer in-person couples counseling in Asheville, NC, as well as online therapy for couples located anywhere in North Carolina. Many of the partners I work with live in Asheville, Black Mountain, Weaverville, Hendersonville, Waynesville, and surrounding WNC communities.
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To begin, please complete my New Client Inquiry Form (linked here). After you submit it, you’ll receive a link to schedule a free 15-minute consultation. It’s a simple way for us to connect, answer questions, and see whether working together feels like a good fit.
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No. You don’t need an ADHD or mental health diagnosis to begin couples counseling. Many couples I work with are simply feeling disconnected, stuck in conflict, or unsure how to move forward together.
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ADHD and mixed-neurotype couples often face unique challenges around communication, task management, emotional regulation, and fairness in the relationship. I use frameworks that honor both partners’ nervous systems and help shift the patterns, not just the symptoms.
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My standard session fee is $165. Many couples find that the investment is less about cost per session and more about the long-term benefits of repairing their relationship, improving communication, and reducing stress at home.
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Yes. I provide telehealth sessions for couples anywhere in North Carolina. Online therapy can be especially helpful for busy parents, partners with different schedules, or couples in rural areas who may not have access to specialized support locally.
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Yes. Therapy can be a space to gain clarity about your relationship—whether that means strengthening your connection, shifting how you navigate conflict, or deciding how to move forward.
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Yes. My practice is inclusive of open, polyamorous, and nontraditional relationships. The work we do together will be tailored to your relationship structure, agreements, and values.